Learn to Love....Yourself First...

A few days earlier, i was having a conversations with a good friend, when she asked me why i never confessed to the guy i used to like...... and the answer i gave her " i did'nt think he would like me back, you know i don't look that great"... and boy was this friend of mine mad!

Quoted by my friend"its all about how you learn to look at things ....when you learn to see the beauty in yourself..
the others will learn to see what you see... "

What she told me got me thinking, is it others making me feel horrible about myself , or is it ME making myself horrible???

Then it hit me.... Why should what everyone in the world think bother me??

Why should very silly stupid thing that some wanna-be zero size person do have to affect me????

I am who i am ....and I AM BEAUTIFUL... ^_^

But , i know that so many people in the world, go through what i go through everyday , and they all have self-esteem problems ...
Hey , People like me... I know how you feel .. u can redeem yourselfs....

We spend so much time waiting to be loved, hoping love will find us, searching, yearning for that special love. Feeling empty and lost without it. Wanting someone to give us love and fill us up. Unfortunately, that’s not usually how life works.
But break your fall and stand up. .....Love yourself!!

Loving yourself is mainly having self-respect which is the only dependable way to create love in your own life to share with others. When you expect love from an external source, and someone or something does not fulfill your void and fantasies, then you will feel worse than before. To be able to be loved, you must love and respect yourself as much as you do others

A few steps to begin the " Feel Good About Who You Are" Process are:

1)Treat others with love and respect-Bringing joy to other peoples' lives will help you find joy in your own. In addition, those that you treat well will likely repay you with the same kindness. Gradually you will start to feel your worth through the smiles of gratitude.

2)Forgive yourself.-Don't punish yourself for something you have done in the past. Instead, look at the mistake as a learning experience. Say to yourself now: “I forgive myself for _______.” Go look in a mirror and say it out loud to yourself, look yourself right in the eyes and speak forgiveness like you mean it. Don't ever demean or ridicule yourself, or if you do then laugh realizing that was then and this is now. Every day is a new beginning.

3)Post positive statements up someplaces where you will see them each and every day. "I am beautiful." or "I have the courage to love." Read them outloud, every day, at least once, ideally at least ten times each time you notice one of them. Sticky notes are fabulous for such affirmations and goals.

4)Start working toward how and what you want to do and be. Do so with a positive attitude by working toward your higher purposes and greater appreciation of your problems as motivating your finding new and better opportunities. Be enthusiastic and cheerful (appropriately).

5)Be yourself. Be who you really are, express yourself, laugh, play, sing. Don't be afraid of what others think, they feel the same way and want to express themselves, but are afraid to show it too.

6)Trust yourself. Don't just blindly follow other peoples suggestions. Learn to trust who you really are. Hope all of you out there tho are just like me , not to sure about yourself... forget those people who pull you down... Pull yourself up... LOVE YOURSELF!!